Medical Journal of Mashhad university of Medical Sciences

Medical Journal of Mashhad university of Medical Sciences

Designing a Pre-Marriage Consultation According to the Lived Experiences of the Women with Unsuccessful Choice: Evaluating Its Efficacy on Criteria for Choosing a Spouse of Female Students

Document Type : Research Paper

Authors
Samaneh Salehi mobarakeh 1
Mohammad Hosein Fallah Ayakhdani 2
Saeid Vaziri Yazdi 3
Zahra Chaboki Nejad 4
1 PhD Student in Counseling, Islamic Azad University, Yazd Branch, Yazd, Iran.
2 Associate Professor, Department of Educational Sciences and Psychology, Islamic Azad University, Yazd Branch, Yazd, Iran.
3 Faculty member, Assistant Professor, Department of Educational Sciences, Islamic Azad University, Yazd Branch, Yazd, Iran.
4 Member of Psychology and Counseling Department, Yazd University of Science and Art, Yazd, Iran.
10.22038/mjms.2022.20156
Abstract
Introduction and purpose: The present study was conducted to investigate designing a pre-marriage consultation according to the lived experiences of the women with unsuccessful choice and evaluating its efficacy on criteria for choosing a spouse of female students.
Material and methods: The research method of the current study was phenomenology in the qualitative part and quasi-experimental with pretest, posttest and control group design in the quantitative part. The statistical population of the present study included all married women with unsuccessful choice in the city of Isfahan in 2019 in the qualitative part who didn’t have marital satisfaction and attended consultation and psychological service centers due to marital conflicts. The statistical population in the quantitative part included all single female students at the universities of Isfahan in academic year 2018-19. 12 women with unsuccessful choice were selected through purposive sampling method and took in-depth interview in order to compile the packages of pre-marriage consultation. 40 female students were selected through purposive sampling method and randomly accommodated into experimental and control group in the quantitative part (20 in the experimental group and 20 in the control group). The experimental group received ten sessions of pre-marriage consultation during two-and-a-half months. 3 people in the experimental group and 2 people in the control group quitted taking part in the study.
Findings :The results showed that pre-marriage consultation according to the lived experiences of the women with unsuccessful choice has significant effect on female students’ criteria for choosing a spouse (p<0.0001)
Keywords
Female students
criteria for choosing a spouse
women with unsuccessful choice
pre-marriage consultation
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Medical Journal of Mashhad university of Medical Sciences
Volume 64, Issue 6 - Serial Number 6
March and April 2022
Pages 4408-4420